What you need to know before living together

Living together is one of the biggest steps in any relationship. It is a great change and a turning point in life. Although until recently it was incomprehensible for partners to live together before marriage, nowadays, more and more people decide to have a joint test before marriage, and many choose to remain in such an extramarital union. No matter what you decide, the decision to live together should be made for the right reasons.

Some couples are pushing for a life together because they think it will save. If you want to live with a partner just for the sake of finance, this is not a good reason. Especially if one of the partners is not ready for the move or is not taking the relationship so seriously. In these cases, life together could very easily turn into a nightmare. One partner will always ask for more, while the other will not meet his expectations. In this case, it is recommended that you look for a roommate in order to split the costs.

Time is the key to every relationship. While cohabitation is something that follows very quickly and is normal in some couples, cohabitation is serious in some couples and they feel that it takes a little longer to make that decision. When deciding to live together, it's important not to follow others. Some will be ready to live together in half a year and some only in five years. It's important to move in together when you both want to.


If you have decided that now is the right time to live together, it is important that you think and talk about the following topics.

  1. What is your relationship? Is it a serious relationship where there is no place for other people or do you want to think about it for a while. Before deciding to live together, it goes without saying that you do not want to even think about someone else and that you have already met your family and friends.
  2. What does the future of your relationship bring? Talk about shared plans. If that's all right, do you want to get married and have kids someday. These are the essential questions on which every connection depends.
  3. What about finances? The conversation about finance should be done right from the start and he is one of the key ones in the relationship. Get to know your partner's financial situation and talk about paying for housing, utilities and food. Also talk about whether to buy your apartment or house if you decide to rent.
  4. Ready to live together? Neither side should drive, urge, or instill a sense of guilt on the partner. You both need to be prepared.

Whatever combination you are in, never rush. There is always time to live together. You may be able to agree on everything very quickly, and it may take more time. Think without haste and get to know yourself well. There is no ideal time when you should decide to live together. Each couple creates its own rules.

Author: M.L., Photo: wavebreakmedia / Shutterstock

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